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23 April 2024

Debtors, a lesson in debt, is a serious journey…

Theda Muller

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The lesson of debt is not dumping your debt on someone’s desk and transposing the entire responsibility onto their plate with your futile excuses, mostly pleading poverty, then later it is found you went on vacation, whilst someone else is trying to protect your life, believing your lies and incorrectly defending you with your creditors?

Who does this? How is possible that you are oblivious to the facts that:

a. It is unacceptable to dump your debt onto someone else’s desk and walk into the sunshine with no sense of responsibility;

b. It is also obnoxious to assume that the company or individual has no choice but to accept this attitude, because you signed an agreement on the dotted line and now you call the shots?

c. It’s also totally unacceptable for the company to protect you against your creditors during the process of remedial submission, whilst you plead poverty by convincing ways that you cannot afford to contribute towards your overdues, but then you are keeping the money for your vacation?

d. Where is your conscience? You cannot recover without one.

e. How come someone else who never spent the money you borrowed, must unintentionally lie to your creditors, because you are underhanded?

f. How come once the remedial tasks are completed, you now feel the need to dissect their service fees because you believe most is undeserved, even if the outcome is positive? Based on what level of mentality are you biting the hand the feeds you?

g. Initially when you are seated in front of a remedial officer, pleading, begging and crying for mercy and help with bad intentions, my advice is enroll yourself in Hollywood, as they are direly seeking actors like yourself.

h. Existing with no self-respect, integrity or respect for those whom you reach out to for help, who take the time and make the effort to tender this help, is a shameless act, where it is deserving for you to rather face your wrath, so you will be forced pay dues to learn respect.

i. When you openly devalue the value of any individual, company or creditor who takes your hand to save your life, then it comes around, in its own time, not yours and when you least expect it, but come around it will, as true as the sun rises and sets daily.

Authentic humanitarian gratitude and appreciation are the only forms of reciprocation that fosters progress, recovery and abundance we all dream of, without that, we are almost soulless and empty humans. Nothing replaces being thankful for someone for being there for you, respecting their efforts and unwavering support to help you. Acting without any remorse and ungratefulness is not the attitude to take, as it will negatively ricochet back into your life.

Many debtors who faced a debt-crisis and acted out this way, are clueless about how much they have compromised their own image and integrity, which affects the character you presented, where the country is huge but also small, because there is literally nowhere to hide.

This attitude can be compared to the mentality of such debtors who assume that when they were in dire debt, unable to pay their EMI’s, they just applied for another loan or credit card, which filled a hole, saved them for a month or more, but left another hole, which is why they faced a debt-crisis.

In the same way if you assume that right now you could cheat your way through asking for help, not paying for the service and the job is done? You are sadly mistaken, as dues you will pay and more than what is owing, because it’s the circle of life.

There has always been dishonest under-handed debtors, but it appears the trend has increased substantially, more so the very good actors, of specific nationalities, who have opted for this route and my message to you today is carry on, see how far it will get you, but one fine day, when you find yourself in a place where your hands are tied, no more under-handed activities, then don’t ask why, know why and think of the acts of dishonesty intentionally performed by you.

At the end, these acts of dishonesty affect the lives of other bread winners, who were either terminated from their jobs, because they reached out and took your hand to help you, or someone who never received their salary like you did, because you never paid your dues. So, when you negatively touch a life, a life touches you in the same way, there is no escape.

Like I said, it’s a circle, it will always be a circle, so any negative cog affects the circle somewhere along the line and it is a sad day that such debtors have no conscience, but we are hoping for less users and more honest sincerity, because the circle of evolution must continue, the bad apples always ever drop off along the way.

Note 1:  Theda Muller is a UAE-based author of two books: Embrace Financial Freedom Volume One: 10 Proven Ways To Release Debt And Emotional Fears In Today’s Economy, and Volume Two: Releasing Fear And Bouncing Back From A Debt Crisis. She is also the CEO & Co-Founder of the remedial company EFFRS LLC, Dubai. She also conducts webinars and workshops on debt recovery.]

[Note 2: The views expressed are the author’s own and do not reflect in any way, the views of Emirates 24|7. Readers are advised to carry out their own due diligence before taking any decision.]