Useful Tips: What you should do when interacting with Arabs

Don’t point your feet and don’t beckon with your finger

When you meet an Arab, make sure you do not cross your leg and point a feet in your companion’s direction as this will be taken as an insult.

The advice, or rather a warning, was included in a report containing tips to non-Arab expatriates on how to deal with Emiratis and other Arab citizens. It was published in the first issue of the Ministry of Interior’s English language monthly police magazine 999 released this week.

The report, titled “Mind the culture gap”, also warned foreigners against using their finger to beckon an Arab and explained what Arabs would do with their fingers when they want their foreign companion to speak slowly.

Following are some of the tip:

-Don’t cross your legs:

The gesture of crossing ones legs – when the upper leg is ‘bounced’ on the lower knee with the foot pointed in the general direction of a companion – is often made quite unconsciously by expats. This can cause Arabs discomfort, perhaps even distaste, since it may symbolize, in body language terms, an accusing or threatening weapon.

It could also indicate that you are feeling impatient – a social crime in the Gulf. The solution is not to cross the legs when in company of Arabs or, if this is not convenient, then to take care where the foot is pointed!

-Shway shway (slowly)

You may see an Arab make the gesture of drawing the fingers of the right hand into a steeple, gently bringing the hand down a few inches once or twice, or perhaps just gently wagging the steepled fingers a little. It means ‘little,
little’, i.e. ‘Slow down a bit; be gentle; be patient.’ On the road, truck and other drivers, will make the gesture through the vehicle’s side window to other drivers. It means: ‘Please let me in’ or ‘Please let me change lanes’.

-Sense of humor

The Arab sense of humour is well developed and can provide a useful bridge to establishing a relationship. However, take care not to belittle or make a joke of the person since this risks causing a loss of face, which will do untold damage to any relationship that might have been developing between you. It will possibly come across as simply rude.

-Judging and trusting you

What is certain, in terms of judging people, is that almost all Arabs can quickly notice, and see through, false or shallow ‘friendship’ sought or maintained simply to advance commercial interests or similar.

Become trusted over time; be genuine in your relationships. Be yourself; do not pretend with Arabs – let a confidence develop between you.

-Beckoning with fingers

In many regions of the Arab world, to ask someone to approach you by beckoning with the upright forefinger is distinctly rude, as is the defiant gesture of disapproval indicated by the raising of a digit finger from a clasped fist on an extended arm.  The latter gesture is known to be, and usually intended to be, rude in any society. But the former gesture involving an upright forefinger may be made quite unconsciously by an expat in an Arab country. Care is therefore needed not to give offence.

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Comments

  • Khurram 26 February 2012 10:37 1 2
    FM - you say that, and yet interact with me. thats exactly the hypocrisy that im talking about....weird...
  • Jamal Shamsi 25 February 2012 20:50 3 0
    humble approach with respect, politeness, equality & respect is 1st lesson for human acceptance.
  • FM 25 February 2012 20:18 3 1
    @Khurram This article is about interacting with Arabs, not interacting with you or whatever MNC you are in.
  • rasheed 25 February 2012 17:25 4 8
    Arabs are usually polite and chivalrous. Some expats behave badly because they have not been trained to respect the culture of other countries. We can learn to be polite and not cause offence needlessly.
  • PraVeeN 24 February 2012 23:00 9 2
    I agree UAE holds mixed nationalities. But expats are bound to obey the rules of the land first and adapt manners which are compliant to land's culture.
  • Rashed 24 February 2012 19:42 5 3
    Even if the demographics in the country are mixed, and even if my country is filled with expats this doesnt mean that this guide shouldn't be put. Whoever comes to the UAE should respect that its and Arab and a Muslim country.
  • Khurram 24 February 2012 18:36 7 2
    Dear June, when these same people go to France, why do they crib on the rules to not cover their faces. Dont the local laws and ..culture of the locals there also deserve respect. Dear Ameena, there is absolutely nothing wrong in boarding an elevator where there are already 5 women
  • Khurram 24 February 2012 18:34 3 2
    Dear Fatema,,I dont know from where you picked up the word 'jee'...perhaps from the same buses where u travel..i dont prefer to be called that at home or anywhere else...Dear June, first, wake up, we are in Feb, not June,,,choosing not to shake hands because of religion is fine, but cribbing that MNCs dont hire them because of that, is not. If thats the case, why not respect the culture and standards of MNCs too, as you enforce for foreign lands in ur message.
  • Amena 24 February 2012 13:23 9 19
    Also, Arabs themselves are very well mannered, I would not bother about them being 'offensive' by mistake. They would never board an elevator if 5 ladies are already in, neither leave a pregnant in a bus/metro standing. Such manners are not a must in counties with population close to, or above, a billion, where people don't mind 'squeezing in' like sardines.
  • Amena 24 February 2012 13:17 5 1
    I think there's nothing that much offensive or nothing that cannot be pardoned between people of different cultures that grant each other basic mutual respect. Even if something out of the etiquette is undeliberately done, MAYBE a very tactful remark, along with a smile, can give a clear signal to the 'offender?
  • June 24 February 2012 09:06 17 13
    Khurram, Your comments are extremely idiotic. When you arrive a foreign country you need to learn the local people way to respect them since it is their country. Secondly if a woman does not shake hands due to Islam's teachings, then should not work in an international company? Are you living in another century Khurram? You speak of diverse and intellect Asians you work with but at the same time reek of ignorance and bigotry. Should learn to respect yourself first.
  • Khurram 23 February 2012 18:23 17 10
    Dear Fatima, i don't know what kind of Asian you mingle with in buses, but the Asians I know who work in multinational firms here and around the world, shake hands, smile, are confident and work hard and smart. They are not hired just for labor audit purposes and are the first ones to pull a chair for a young or old woman. Perhaps you should move around more in MNCs and not buses!
  • Bin Ali 23 February 2012 18:16 27 21
    Our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said all are equal, give equal respect to all. Islam is a great religion.
  • Kinzel 23 February 2012 16:07 9 9
    Totally agree with you Me, Khurram & JH. In that case there should be guidelines to learn expatriate's cultural etiquette as well for Arabs which are required to be equally respected.
  • Fatema 23 February 2012 15:00 11 10
    To Khurram, calling Sir, Mr or jee is not as important as being respectful to the person. I'm working with western people and my manager informed us from beginning to call him with his name to have mutual atmosphere. As we are spending 1/3 of our day at office, and we must feel it as a second family. I think it is enough when your gharwalo call you khurram jee.
  • Fatema 23 February 2012 14:55 17 16
    To Khurram, you are talking about Asian culture. I think it is also not desirable in your community that woman shakes hands with men. And locals are more effective in communication skills and making friends easy. I've seen some educated Asians who are not ready to leave their seats for elder women from same nationality in a terminal shuttle bus. What do you call that? Our women would leave seat for an elder man.
  • JH 23 February 2012 14:22 18 6
    To 'Me' - Completely agree with your comment. Since Expats are more than the citizens I think the citizens should also make an effort to learn our ways. They are after all letting us into their countries. It should be both ways in any part of the world I feel.
  • Khuram 23 February 2012 14:12 43 26
    Perhaps someone should also inform Arabs that in Asian/Western culture, it is rude to be addressed as Aye, Hello, Baba, Rafiq, etc. We prefer Sir or Mr. Also.. women who don't want to shake hands should not seek jobs in multinational companies.
  • Gee 23 February 2012 13:04 5 6
    Totally agree with you mate!
  • Naimadz 23 February 2012 12:50 16 13
    Add to this please that Muslim women do not shake hands with men. I am having big probelm with that, including finding jobs in multinational companies, as some take it negatively when informed about the culture of the country.

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