Family support during debt crisis is key

Theda Muller

Key is not keeping secrets from family about your debt crisis situation.

So it is a ‘no-no’, because if you cannot set yourself free it its entirety, you will never be free. In fact your façade will continue and never serve you because if you can refute or deny this situation to your family, means you cannot be sincere and open up with debtors and so recovery may be very difficult and hard to manage as time progresses.

Pretending something does not exist is like acting as if you have eyesight, when you are actually blind, although this can be a good thing, however within the context of a debt crisis situation; it is a bad act to practice.

We all want to be loved, cared about by our family and supported by the people we love and those who are dear to us. So if you don’t open up, you will never get to that point where you are happy with whom you are and it is important that you are happy with yourself before you embark on this recovery journey.

You might say: ‘well my spouse has no idea of my situation’ or ‘my family back home depend on me and they don’t know my situation, where in both instances it would devastate them’. So what? At least you told the truth and it will set you free!

Fact is, if they really loved and supported you, then they would understand and the bigger fact is, they are most probably the only people who will ever be standing right behind you, in spite of your mistakes, faults or bad decisions taken.

To do this you have to be happy in your personal life first, even just taking a first step and start rebuilding the relationship you tore down because of your debt crisis situation. Nothing is ever that bad that cannot be patched up if love exists and the more love you give, the more your entire situation will change, not just the family or love relationships, but the debt situation. Why? Because you are putting out only good, love is the core of life and it is what makes life exists and if you put out love, you get love back and you also get all of the good at the highest level.

How do you know this is true? If you are in a situation right now that is really unpleasant and only because you cannot openly communicate in the home, with your spouse, other members and you have distanced yourself, then you are emitting those negative emotions that will make people move away from you. Simultaneously when you are around, you will attract unpleasant arguments, negativity, strife and unhappiness so you either go crawl into your bedroom, or any other room, hide from everyone or just keep away from socials or any other normal interaction.

Remember wherever you are, whatever situation you find yourself in, only you created it, so only you have the power to reverse it and this power is simple, it is the power of the mind, it is accepting where you are, reaching out to those you love, explaining your situation, making them understand, openly discussing it and brainstorming your joint solutions. Saying you are sorry which is really important, being humble and showing them that you appreciate their acceptance and willingness to suggest their solutions, will cement a new relationship upon which you can start rebuilding.

Having people who love you around during this time, just gives you that inner strength, pushes you with more determination to resolve your problems, get out of debt and show them you can do better the next time.

Nobody likes to feel alienated, unfortunately when you distance yourself from everyone for long enough, you can actually get used to it. You don’t want to become a recluse, hiding from people, not having the urge to communicate and feel free. But, if you continue along this path, within a short time that attitude and new habit will engulf you, it will start having a very negative impact on your life, job or your ability to rebuild, recover and advance in your business. Finally you feel like you have lost being human and so also lose your will to be bothered about any of this and for you, the thought of life being over, would be real.

A common pattern is you would probably just amble along, continue beating the stories that is already dead and miss your calling in your life, the things you are passionate about that could help you rebuild. Sometimes we are brought to a place because it is a cross-roads and turning point for something better in the future but at the time we don’t know it. So when you find an article like this and you are in that spot and this resonates with you, then let me tell you, your being here today is not a mistake, neither is reading this article, because it is mean’t to encourage you to be who you really are and want to be and you need to know that nothing is impossible.

Family and loved ones are supposed to be precious, we are supposed to live ‘open books’ and they are supposed to know what we are doing. We are supposed to have a plan and strategy for our lives, have goals and objectives and so when you can surround yourself with these good emotions of togetherness and oneness, then half your battles are won on this road to recovery.

We know for sure that opening up to family surpasses anything and everything about not opening up, or opening up to strangers who will judge you anyhow is a precaution you should master. Learn to keep your circle close, learn whom to trust and with whom to share anything about yourself because mastering this habit, will help you to apply the same principle in other facets of your life and it will be to your advantage.

Look for the common, seek out the love you know and you experienced and wallow in it every single day, all day if you can and watch your life change. Simple but totally mind-blowing because love makes the world go around. Am I being unrealistic? You be the judge and try it for yourself and then you can drop me a line!

The world needs more people who show the love and care and who share with their families and those whom they love and so yes you have to job to do, to get on with your debt recovery but you also have time for this before you even start.


[Note 1:  Theda Muller is a UAE-based author of two books: Embrace Financial Freedom Volume One: 10 Proven Ways To Release Debt And Emotional Fears In Today’s Economy, and Volume Two: Releasing Fear And Bouncing Back From A Debt Crisis.

She also conducts webinars and workshops on debt recovery.]

[Note 2: The views expressed are the author’s own and do not reflect in any way, the views of Emirates 24|7. Readers are advised to carry out their own due diligence before taking any decision.]

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